The old adage of don’t talk about religion, politics or sex no doubt it’s founded upon fact, because people figure that’s the best way to avoid serious argument.. I could say yes this might be true, and times have changed, or perhaps what has changed are taboo topics morphing into something else. When we disagree we can often react to a point of wanting retaliation because someone has hurt us. Or we might have a desire desire to seek varying degrees of revenge.
I see revenge as being one of those topics people don’t really want to discuss much, in spite of it being one of the oldest instincts human beings have and is old as the hills.. We would like to think of ourselves a “nice” people until suppressed emotions that have become repressed come to the surface in anger or even rage.
Shakespeare saw revenge as being normal and predictable. . Shakespeare said, “If you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you poison us do we not die? And if you wrong us shall we not revenge?”
Does revenge make us feel happy, or is it simply destructive toward all those involved?
According to Confucius he said , “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Gandhi apparently agreed when he said, “An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
What goes around comes around may be true like in relation to Karma. But when we are out of control, reacting with aggressive attack, and then counter attack, then we are in trouble.
Our emotions and instincts serve an important purpose, however if we have little to no self-awareness or self control these can consume us, and inflict damage toward others and damage our own psyche.
I like the saying I first heard in the rooms of recovery. When you are pointing a finger there are three fingers pointing back.
It’s been said that revenge is a product of hate and weakness. Happiness is the product of love and strength.